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FOI Exemption: The Ford Government only gives direction verbally.

March 17, 2026 No comments Article

On exempting themselves, the politicians, from Freedom of Information. You all realize that Doug Ford and ALL of his Ministers and Parliamentary Assistants refuse to write down policy direction to the Deputy Ministers (the Public Service) in each ministry, right? They are making this change now because they have trained the highest ranking public servants to accept direction in only a verbal format.If Ford passes this bill you will literally never know what your government is doing anymore. You will NEVER see any direction, ask, question, from the conservative government they don’t want you to see. This is Fascism. via /r/ontario https://ift.tt/JgQC2RO

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Software developers don’t need to out-last vibe coders, we just need to out-last the ability of AI companies to charge absurdly low for their products

March 17, 2026 No comments Article

These AI models cost so much to run and the companies are really hiding the real cost from consumers while they compete with their competitors to be top dog. I feel like once it’s down to just a couple companies left we will see the real cost of these coding utilities. There’s no way they are going to be able to keep subsidizing the cost of all of the data centers and energy usage. How long it will last is the real question. via /r/webdev https://ift.tt/NRhXpEt

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It’s selfish really

March 14, 2026 No comments Article

It’s just another stupid night. I lay here next to her and wonder if someone will love us. If someone will see us as family. I know. I know. “You and her are a family. You’re both all the family you’ll need.” I know. But I’m allowed to want to have someone who looks at her with as much love as I do, as much care, as much fierce protectiveness. To look at me and her and think “Mine. My family. My home.” And just cherish us. Love us. Want to protect us. Someone who will be just as excited to hear about her day and remember thingsPlay dates Class parties Fire Truck day when they get to learn Ask me how she did that day at her support classes. Someone who will think of me and think of flowers, the moon, and love Someone who will look at her and think of affection, giggles, and warmth And I know it’s so selfish But I want to just be able to lean against someone while we both look at her coloring & try to guess what she’s drawing. I want the grocery runs where we swing her between us both while she holds our hands For someone to really recognize how special it is when she calls them “Papa” and she wants to include them I know. I know. We are a family, just the two of us. But I see some other step-dads and how they love their step kids And I so desperately want that for us. To be looked at with love and truly cherished. I know it’s so selfish. I never say it to anyone else. But I wish we could be loved as a family too. It feels so lonely. And she’ll never know that. She has me and I can do both. She has me and she’ll know she’s loved, cherished, protected, special. I know we’re a family. But it would be nice A dream really To have a partner who loves and cherishes us both To share the sad, scary, happy, exciting moments with I know we are a family. But it would be nice to have a family. No advice wanted. I just needed to get this out while I cry for the millionth time while she’s asleep. via /r/singlemoms https://ift.tt/AG2Uliu

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Can you still think of your WS as a ‘good person’?

March 14, 2026 No comments Article

I was having a random conversation with my WH today about something… and he said, “Well, I’m a good person, so I could never do that…” I was quiet for a beat, but eventually agreed with him… though I didn’t really know how to agree wholeheartedly. He’s said this before a couple of times and it stops me short. While I do agree that generally he is a good person – he is sensitive to others, he is moral and thoughtful, he is kind natured when it comes to people and social issues… The truth of the matter is, he destroyed another human being. He hurt me in a way that I can never recover from. He did a hateful, evil, selfish, vicious thing. He ruined my life. Our life. And, he knew what he was doing. He did it more than once. He has shown little or no accountability… He has been mean and cold and hateful. He hasn’t shown me empathy and he hasn’t tried to help me when he knows I’m in agony.I can theorize that – perhaps – because he IS a good person, what he did is so awful to him that he CAN’T deal with it, and shuts down. But… how dare he think of himself as a good person knowing how he shattered the person who is closest to him. The person least deserving of his wrath. Is that someone who is capable of being called a good person? By me? By anyone? Do any of you still think of your WS as a ‘good person’? How?? via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/eK6cBT5

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[Article] Hard Times Reveals Your True Character

March 10, 2026 No comments Article

In normal times, when people are not challenged, they don’t have the right picture of who they are. Most people are deluded. They assume they are stronger, smarter, better than they are, but when hard times arrive, they shrink. They are not as strong as they think they are.Nobody enjoys hard times or being tested. But these periods don’t necessarily signal disaster; they can be the very catalyst for your personal evolution.Don’t Be Afraid Of Hard Times- They will reveal your true character.All Delusions Fall In Front Of Hard Times- It can be unpleasant, but more unpleasant is to be a prisoner of your delusions.Hard Times As Inspiration- When you are pressed, you can always give your best.Challenges Will Discover Your Hidden Strength- It can only be unlocked during challenges.Use The Difficulty- See opportunities even in hard times.Comfort Kills Your Spirit- Hard times make your spirit stronger.Play With Uncertainty- You can always gain something.Where Your Fear Is, There Is Your Task- It’s your duty to overcome your fears.Hard Times Are A Test Of Your Character- They will show you your strengths and weaknesses.A Smooth Sea Never Makes A Skilled Sailor- Without hard times, it is difficult to develop a great character.We all want to be strong, but strength is only tested in the dark. Are you using your current struggle as an excuse, or as a training ground? via /r/GetMotivated https://ift.tt/bHa0Cr3

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I’m a former maximum security correctional officer that made the news for my analysis on exactly why the Epstein story doesn’t hold up operationally. Ask me anything.

March 6, 2026 No comments Article

Links at the bottom. The articles link to my posts.If people think this is meaningful enough for viral reactions and news articles, I’d like to revisit it. Hopefully stuff like this blowing up makes the people involved uncomfortable.My analysis…—Some of you know me at this point. I’ve posted several times about Epstein’s death from the perspective of someone who worked maximum securityI’ve been digging more through what’s been released as well as reading what others have found. I need to update my assessment. It’s worse than I thought. A lot worse.I’m going to lay out everything, the old evidence and the new, and then I’m going to explain why Occam’s Razor now points so heavily in one direction that I don’t know how anyone can look at this and conclude the official story is true.EVIDENCEThese are the points I made in my first two posts.1.) The cameras.The cameras that could have captured what happened near Epstein’s cell were not recording. Federal facilities have redundant systems. They are checked regularly. This wasn’t some county jail running on fumes. This was also one of the highest profile inmates ever. Under normal circumstances, systems checks would have been done tirelessly to prevent something exactly like this. This alone makes no sense, when you consider who the inmate was and what he was charged with. You don’t half ass things when Epstein walks into your facility and you know the whole world is watching.The officersTwo officers allegedly fell asleep simultaneously and falsified records. These are federal correctional officers assigned to the highest-profile inmate in the country. The selection standards, the accountability, the visibility of this assignment. The idea that both fell asleep at the same time strains belief.3.) Suicide watch removalEpstein was on suicide watch after a previous incident. Removal requires administrative approval. That approval was granted shortly before his death, drastically lowering the protection around him at exactly the wrong moment.4.) The cell design.High security cells are specifically engineered to prevent suicide. The fixtures, the bedding, the hardware, is all designed to eliminate ligature points and to fail under load. It’s not impossible to kill yourself, but it’s deliberately not easy.5.) The forensic questionsDr. Michael Baden, a forensic pathologist with 50+ years of experience, observed the autopsy. He found three fractures in Epstein’s neck, the hyoid bone and both sides of the thyroid cartilage. His statement: “Going over a thousand jail hangings, suicides in the New York City state prisons over the past 40-50 years, no one had three fractures.”The city medical examiner disagreed and ruled it suicide. But she initially listed the cause of death as “pending,” then changed it days later after reviewing “additional evidence” she has never disclosed.NEW EVIDENCEThis is what’s come out of the recent document release.6.) The decoy body.According to an internal memo dated August 16, 2019, six days after Epstein’s death, a jail supervisor told FBI agents that staff created a decoy body using boxes and sheets. They loaded it into a white van marked as belonging to the Medical Examiner. Reporters followed that van. Meanwhile, Epstein’s actual body was loaded into a black vehicle that left “unnoticed.”I said this in my last post and I’ll say it again. This is not a thing. There is no protocol for decoy body transport. No training. No precedent. In my entire career, I never heard of this. You don’t build fake corpses to misdirect media. This is operational deception, and the only question is what they were hiding.7.) The timeline doesn’t match.The official story from 2019: Epstein was found unresponsive, transported to the hospital, and pronounced dead there. If that’s true, there’s no body at MCC to remove. The Medical Examiner picks up from the hospital, not the jail.So why do the DOJ documents describe a decoy body operation at MCC?These two accounts are incompatible. Either the 2019 story was wrong, or the documents describe an operation that shouldn’t exist.8.)”Does not appear to be a suicide note.”The DOJ files contain emails between investigators discussing Epstein’s final written note. One message states that the note “does not appear to be a suicide note.”They ruled it a suicide anyway.9.) The “raw” video wasn’t raw.The DOJ released what they called the “full raw” surveillance footage from the night of Epstein’s death. Independent forensic analysts examined the metadata. What they found:The video was assembled from at least two separate clips using Adobe Premiere Pro. It was saved multiple times before being uploaded, and approximately 2 minutes and 53 seconds of footage were removed, not the “one missing minute” officials originally attributed to a nightly system reset, but nearly three full minutes that were cut.A digital forensics expert from UC Berkeley reviewed the file and said: “If a lawyer brought me this file and asked if it was suitable for court, I’d say no.”The government released edited footage and called it raw.10.) The 4chan post was real.On the morning of August 10, 2019, before Epstein’s death was publicly reported, an anonymous post appeared on 4chan. The poster claimed to be a prison employee. He said Epstein had been wheeled out in a medical wheelchair, that an unauthorized van arrived and wasn’t signed in, that a man in military dress was in the back of the van, and that he believed “they switched him out.”It was dismissed as a hoax.The DOJ files just revealed that the day after Epstein’s death, U.S. Attorney Geoffrey Berman opened a grand jury proceeding and subpoenaed 4chan, Apple, AT&T, and Citibank to identify the poster.They found him. His name is Roberto Grijalva. He was a lieutenant at MCC, someone senior enough to see exactly what he claimed to have seen.The government took that post seriously enough to convene a grand jury within 24 hours. They identified the poster as an actual MCC officer. And as far as I can find, he’s never recanted.–OCCAM’S RAZORPeople misunderstand this concept. Occam’s Razor doesn’t mean “the simplest-sounding explanation is true.” It means you shouldn’t multiply assumptions unnecessarily. The explanation requiring the fewest independent assumptions is usually correct.So let’s count.For the official story to be true, you must believe:Half the cameras in the SHU failed or weren’t recording – coincidenceTwo officers fell asleep at the same time on the highest-profile watch in federal custody – coincidenceAdministrative approval was granted to remove suicide watch shortly before death – coincidenceEpstein defeated cell design specifically engineered to prevent what he allegedly did – coincidenceThree neck fractures occurred in a way a 50-year veteran says he’s never seen in 1000+ jail hangings – coincidenceHis final note “does not appear to be a suicide note” per investigators, but it was still suicide – coincidenceThe “raw” video was actually edited with 3 minutes removed, but nothing was hidden – coincidence Staff created a decoy body and ran a misdirection operation for reasons that don’t exist in any protocol – coincidenceThe timeline of the decoy operation contradicts the official transport story – coincidenceAn MCC lieutenant posted accurate details about an extraction before the death was public, serious enough to trigger a grand jury, but he was wrong – coincidenceThat’s ten independent assumptions. Ten things that have to all be true simultaneously, with no connection between them, for the official story to hold.For the alternative to be true, you must believe:Powerful people with a lot to lose had motive to ensure Epstein never testified. Someone with access and authority coordinated the conditions for his death or removal. The scene was managed before, during, and after.That’s one assumption: it was managed. Everything else flows from that.I’m not claiming certainty. I’m not saying I know exactly what happened. The details are unmappable with the information we have.But I am saying this: the probability that the official story is accurate is now so low that I don’t know how to take it seriously.Every new piece of information makes it harder to believe, not easier. The documents meant to provide transparency have instead revealed more anomalies, more contradictions, more evidence of active deception.At some point, you have to ask yourself what you’re looking at. Ten coincidences isn’t a coincidence. It’s a pattern.Whatever happened in that cell – or before he ever got to that cell – someone made sure we couldn’t verify it.No single variable has to be impossible to explain. It’s about the combined likelihood of all of those variables happening simultaneously in a way that directly benefits the people he had dirt on. What are the odds, people?If this makes sense to you, share it. Send it to people. I don’t need credit. Own it as your own analysis if you want. The point isn’t me. The point is the logic. If it holds, propagate it.https://ift.tt/nLYpD0R via /r/AMA https://ift.tt/taGCHf4

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The most important moment in your life is almost invisible. [Text]

March 6, 2026 No comments Article

Everyone thinks behavior is automatic.Something happensyou reactSomeone insults youangerSomething scares youfearSomething frustrates youimpulseThat’s how most people experience life.SignalreactionFast.Automatic.Unquestioned.But there is something most people never notice.Between the signal and the reactionthere is a very small moment.Almost invisible.Your nervous system tries to close it immediately because open decisions feel unstable.So the system rushes to react.But if you slow down enough to see that moment clearly, something strange happens.Reaction stops feeling inevitable.You start noticing the place where behavior is actually selected.Not controlled.Not suppressed.Selected.And once you see that moment clearly enough, a realization appears that is both empowering and uncomfortable.Most people believe their life is shaped by what happens to them.But a huge part of it is shaped by what happens in that tiny space before they respond.Most people live their entire lives without ever noticing it.Some traditions call it awareness.Some call it discipline.I simply call itthe gap. via /r/GetMotivated https://ift.tt/rMhHAs2

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How i finally stopped bed rotting for 4 hours every night [Discussion]

March 6, 2026 No comments Article

neuro student here and honestly… i’m kind of embarrassed to even type this out considering what i actually study. like i spend my entire day in the lab staring at dopamine pathways and reward circuits under a microscope, and then i’d literally get home and just waste away for 4 hours straight. just staring at absolute garbage on social media until my eyes actually burned.i used to tell myself i just lacked discipline or whatever but it’s not even a moral failing. my brain was just conditioned to need that constant hit of novelty to the point where sitting in silence felt physically painful. tried all that “productivity guru” crap and none of it worked for me. here’s the only stuff that actually stopped me from wanting to throw my phone into a lake:the paper list. i had to stop using notes apps because they’re a trap because they’re on the phone. now i just use a shitty notebook and write down 4 things: someone to text, a chapter to read, a drink like tea, and one 50 min task. that’s it.the “human” buffer. if i actually talk to a real person after lab, the urge to scroll drops by like 90%. i think it just kills that “stimulus hunger.”the “off” switch. this is the big one. i turn my phone completely OFF before i even walk in the door. not silent. OFF. the 30 seconds it takes to reboot is usually enough friction to kill the impulse when i’m brushing my teeth and my brain goes “check the feed.”the “win” task. i just do one 50 min thing like studying or cleaning. ending the day with a finished task feels “heavy” in a good way, way better than the high of a 15 second short video.closing loops. i just dump everything stressing me out onto paper and then write one tiny, stupid step for tomorrow. not “fix my life,” just “email the lab tech.” it stops the brain loops so i can actually sleep.look i still fuck up. some nights i’m just dead and i rot on the couch anyway. but my nights feel like mine again. i stopped trying to use willpower because mine is gone by 9pm and i just made it harder to use the phone.tldr; your brain isn’t broken, your environment just sucks. make it harder to use your phone and stop being a degenerate. via /r/GetMotivated https://ift.tt/bnkwVPR

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The feelings for AP and final DDay

March 5, 2026 No comments Article

Last night was heavy, for months I’ve had one question for WH in regards to the affair. I know what happened, but I wanted to know what he felt. what did he feel that made him pursue and move towards her. What made him keep going. Since he disclosed, whenever I would ask I would get anything from IDK to I felt nothing, I was empty, I didn’t want her she was just there… I knew in my gut I couldn’t move forward in reconciliation until he could do the work to find out what the actual feelings were. I would say “no one pursues and continues to make out with someone for 40 minutes let alone let them go down on them while feeling nothing, something was there that made you want her so badly that you completely pushed out that your wife and children were sleeping just ft away.” He would make promises he would go to therapy and find out, but alas no therapist has stuck. We are almost 3 months out from the original DDay. Yesterday I found some AI conversations, one from 2 months ago about a month after the A. It asked him to pick an option as to what he was feeling in that moment. I saw he had an answer and confronted him. It was clear he knew what he felt all along. He played dumb, he kept saying he didn’t feel anything, he doesn’t even remember using AI for that, that he had discussed with me his ai conversations (funny he never showed me this one). I told him to look me in my eyes and say that you felt absolutely nothing towards her. He did, he looked and me and promised me he felt absolutely nothing that he will work on finding out. Hours later, that night he finally laid it all out. How he’s done nothing but protect himself our whole marriage, how he’s lied to me and himself. how he had contempt for me despite acting like a loving husband, how while I was breastfeeding and caring for twins on my own, he kept thinking how I was the one keeping him from what he deserved, to be desired. Never showing up for me. how I was stopping him from doing what he wanted and he came up with every reason as to why I was the problem. That led to him admitting he did have feelings that night. AP made him feel alive, validated, desired. He kept pursuing her in conversation to keep the feelings going, that he wanted her and once she made it clear she did too he took what he wanted. he liked it, that’s why he kissed her for so long, she made him feel good. He didn’t want to stop so he didn’t. he didn’t stop until he looked to the door where we were and was scared of being caught. He said even when he stopped it was about him, not us.I feel sick. he kept telling me he felt nothing towards her, it was numb and empty. He never wanted her. I believed him but knew it didn’t feel right, who keeps kissing someone and escalating to sexual acts if they didn’t like it, want it, if they felt nothing? It’s just been lying to me to protect himself for 3 months, torturing me and trying to act like I’m all he wants and all he ever wanted. After almost 3 months of trying R, I feel so done. I made him sleep on the couch. I’m numb, I don’t want to be near him. I don’t want him to touch me or kiss me. He got what he wanted from her he doesn’t need me anymore. I know it isn’t the same because “there was real meaning behind what we have” but it doesn’t feel like it. it feels like he was always just thinking about himself and I was just the stable strong one, the one pouring herself into protecting and showing up for her family. I was the attractive, fun, giving, loyal, smart, hardworking, loving mother of his kids. He had it all and he spent years wearing me down until he put the final nail in. NOW he wants to be the man I deserved? Now he sees how valuable I am? Now he wants to think about me and make me the focus of everything after he got everything wanted and was self absorbed for YEARS. The mask completely fell off the night he finally cheated on me. via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/Hp5FaXJ

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to stay or to go, and what to do when neither feel right.

March 5, 2026 No comments Article

This is my first post as a betrayed partner, just over 11 months since I found out about the affair. 11 months of living in what feels like a nightmare, like I woke up to a life that was no longer my own. Originally I was under the assumption it was an emotional affair with a coworker, but have come to find after months of trickle truth  that he was in a months long physical relationship, one that continued for several months after D-day. ​I am struggling with how to move forward and if I even want to. For my entire life and relationship with my husband what I have loved the most is how at peace I felt. The first few years of our relationship everything felt so right. I felt like he truly supported me and my life, he wanted me to pursue my life and dreams. I felt the same way for him.  There were bumps along the way, struggles between jobs and schedules and normal life things, but overall we were really happy. Above this, we actually enjoyed eachother. We loved to laugh and I felt like we were best friends who were in love. The luckiest of them all. I used to joke that I felt like I used up all my “good karma” points on finding my partner and used that to make light of things in my life that might go wrong otherwise, a failed test or missed opportunity. Like I used up all my luck in life finding my husband and the sad part is, that I truly felt that way. Things changed a bit a few years in. For life circumstances we ended up moving to a place neither of us had any community, we had kids, he continued to climb the ranks at his job and I took a step back from my career to help our family and raise our kids. Overall, I still believed TRULY that we were happy. We had VERY young kids so of course, things were challenging. We had grown distant and were both struggling individually in different capacities, but I just believed it was a stage of marriage that we would grow through and look back on one day to say “wow, I’m so glad we did that”.  I was struggling as a stay at home mom, feeling like I wanted to be back at work but not seeing how that was possible or feeling supported to make the jump back. I thought he was stressed at work from a demanding boss and schedule. Add to that 3 kids under the age of 5 and well, life was a challenge.  Then DDay happened and life as I knew it turned upside down.It was like my husband, as I knew him, died that day. Like the life I was building, the plans I was making, the future I was working so hard for all were gone in an instant. Over the next few months my wayward husband would “work” towards reconciliation that never really felt genuine or true. I would find out later, during this time he was still actively seeing his AP while telling me how he has no intention to hurt me with his actions, he loves our family and believes we can save this marriage.  I was made to feel crazy when I would tell him things felt off or different. I would email him saying I was so happy he slept in bed or was here with us. I would go above and beyond to try to reconnect. I thought he was going through a tough time as a human and as his wife and best friend, I wanted to support him.  I still believed, deep down, that this was something we would look back on and say “wow, I’m so glad we survived that”. Over the next few months, alot would happen. I would find out eventually he is still seeing her. I would leave briefly and say I am done, only to have him convince me to stay and work on it. We would go to MC and IC, he would tell me we are starting a “new marriage” and send me posts from this group about success stories. He would learn all about affair fog and trickle truth, and still withhold his own truth from me. Eventually after months, he will tell me it was just a kiss, just once. Then just sex, just once. Then just twice. Then just five times.  I will leave again, briefly, only to be too overwhelmed to move forward with the idea of a new house, divorce and the idea that my old life no longer exists. Also during this time I am seeing him right in front of me, my best friend and the love of my life, offering me everything I have ever wanted. I am watching our family celebrate holidays, go on vacations, watch movies on the couch, go out for bike rides. We would eventize every occasion (big and small), sometimes I wonder if I did this for myself knowing maybe I couldn’t hold on to these forever.  It was so painfully heartbreaking, seeing the life I have always prayed for right in front of me, while feeling the same sadness in my chest that everything is different. Missing the calm and peace that this life always brought me before. As if the life looks the same, but I get closer and I realize it’s just a hologram of a life I once knew. A few months later I will start to regain strength again. I will grow tired of explaining to my adult partner why I can’t regulate his emotions in every conversation. I will grow tired of having to lead him to every answer, in every conversation. I will grow tired of parenting him, along with my actual children. I will start to look into a physical separation and then  more truths will come out. It was an entire relationship. One that was started before I knew, while we were distant, but one he was also able to have with her while also “working on our marriage”. While he saw me cry myself to sleep, do anything possible to save us, take full accountability for the things I did in the past and completely reinvent myself to be the best version of myself. How do I reconcile the two. How do I understand that the person that I knew who loved me, who helped me heal after a car accident, who bought me flowers just because, who played with my kids, took care of our family…. is also this person. How do I ever believe that life can go back to normal. I have been here and on this thread long enough to see, it will never be the same. Even if it is repaired, there will always be this crack. How do I know if I can survive the crack? How do I know that years from now life won’t get challenging again and the same person who is claiming to love me and our family won’t again cheat. Won’t claim he didn’t even intend to hurt me or didn’t realize what it would do to our family? I think my feelings may be different if after discovery he fully came clean. He owned up to his behavior, stopped seeing her and put full effort into our repair. But he didn’t. He continued to lie. To put himself before us, his family. Doesn’t that tell me everything I need to know about his behavior?  Or can people change. Truly change that part of themselves. Not just the way the put dishes in the sink or clean up after the dog, can people change their ability to compartmentalize, resent and fully dissociate from reality? Not sure if I am asking for advice, or guidance or just a “yeah, me too”. Does anyone who stayed and worked to repair really believe, deep down, that their relationship is better? Or is that part of the script you tell yourself that allows you to tolerate the disrespect?  via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/aPpQ0Ib

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Volunteer and help reduce isolation for long-term care residents

March 3, 2026 No comments Article

Partners Community Health is a non-profit charitable organization focused on coordinated healthcare services in Mississauga and West Toronto. Friendly Visiting Volunteers provide social connection and companionship to residents during each shift. Volunteers receive a list of residents to visit and offer conversation, simple activities like reading, puzzles, music, or quiet companionship. Shifts are approximately 2–3 hours, with a commitment of one to two shifts per week. Flexible scheduling is available based on resident needs and volunteer availability, with a minimum six-month commitment preferred. Training is provided, including orientation to long-term care, dementia awareness, communication skills, and infection prevention.This role is well suited to someone who is friendly, reliable, and comfortable engaging with seniors, including individuals living with dementia.Location: 2180 Speakman Dr, Mississauga, ONRequirements include: Minimum age 18, background or police records check, medical forms, and ability to commute locallyYou can learn more about the role and apply here:Friendly Visiting Volunteer opportunity with Partners Community Health via /r/mississauga https://ift.tt/rbuFeEk

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Anyone else terrified?

March 1, 2026 No comments Article

Trigger warning: pedophilia, csa, rapeI don’t really have much to say other than, is anyone else losing their shit? From the Epstein files to this horrific TikTok https://ift.tt/oukTUNq I saw today, I am so terrified by the world I’ve brought my daughter into. I was also severely sexualized and groomed as a child so I’ve always been wary ALL men, including my family, including friends spouses, including my own daughter’s father. I want to keep her safe. I want all children to be safe. I feel perpetually triggered and overwhelmed with wondering what I can do to minimized the chances of harm to my daughter. I know the standard precautions single moms are advised to take: no significant other meeting your child for as long as possible, no sleep overs, teaching your child about their body and consent etc. But I’m still painfully and constantly terrified by all of the ways men in particular are capable of harming children. And I’m not in the mood to do the “not all men” bs right now because the pedophilic + rape culture is literally baked into every single facet of our society. Across race, class, religion, age. It’s everywhere. I have a friend who’s an educator who was forced to quit her job because she had a mental break after learning that one of her students, a 15 year old, raped another student, filmed it, and showed it to his peers. Life wtf is actually happening??? via /r/singlemoms https://ift.tt/aZIdOFe

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Blindsided, lied to, gaslit, discarded. I’m angry at the injustice.

February 15, 2026 No comments Article

For months I thought my marriage of 15+ years was amazing. Then one day (6 months ago), bam, my wife said she was unhappy. I immediately took responsibility for everything and tried to fix things. We went to counseling and spent a few weeks “working on it.”Then I found out she was having an affair.After that, it was lying, trickle truth, gaslighting, and increasing coldness. The end was brutal. She said some deeply cruel things to me and basically rewrote our whole marriage like I was the problem all along. I literally found emails/text messages of her and the AP mocking me as not a man and how happy they were screwing around while I was oblivious.What destroys me is the unfairness. She had months to emotionally process and plan her exit. I got blindsided and shattered. Now I’m the one in therapy doing the heavy lifting to recover, while she seems to have moved on with no real consequences.I also learned the affair was with a former patient of hers from the hospital in which she works.At this point, I’m doing better, I’m slowly healing and growing. We are officially divorced. Thankfully no kids.But I’m still angry…part of me wants to tell all of her friends what she did. Tell them, how can you associate with someone like her when you have sons of your own. I also am tempted to contact her workplace and provide the emails and tell them about the affair with her cancer patient…that has to be potential grounds for dismissal or at least it would hurt her reputation. I know…probably best to just move on and forget her…it’s just…she caused me so much hurt and pain and a big part of me wants to hurt her back.What do you guys think? via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/Sd6tcsg

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How did you accept the avoidant discard? I was blindsided and I’ve been ruminating for one year.

February 13, 2026 No comments Article

This sub being Called “surviving” infidelity is so true. It’s really about surviving a fight with death. Is it normal to have ever thought about not wanting to live after indefinitely? I posted here just a little over a year ago. When I found out my husband was cheating and had a whole relationship, dday was 2 weeks postpartum. We were together 9 years at the time and we never had any huge problems in our marriage. We were happy, so content with our life. When I say avoidant discard, I was blindsided. It came out of nowhere. It was not in his nature to become the devil he became until he fell in love with AP. He was so mean and just left. He was and still is obsessed about his AP. Im scared I’m going to go crazy, I still cannot fathom, comprehend the discard. It’s different when someone is horrible throughout the relationship, because you know this person isn’t right for you deep down. But what about when they were loving the whole time? My first year into motherhood was miserable and I still am. I feel mentally weak. You want someone more when they don’t want you. How do you accept this. How can I stop caring? Having to see someone you would have died for twice a week while he lives his best life and I alone with the baby ruminating every second I get to myself. via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/Tc82JSo

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Ok it’s 2026. What are the AI gains?

February 13, 2026 No comments Article

I keep seeing that AI is increasing dev productivity ANYWHERE from 0-100%. What does this mean?Is more work being added to sprints?Are backlogs completely cleared?Are you completing 2-5x as many projects/features/releases?I’m only one dot on the chart but my workplace has whatever license offers Copilot and I know no one on the dev, marketing, or design teams use it. I personally use Chatgpt and Gemini; they’ve definitely ASSISTED in me understanding blackboxes within our codebase, which I suppose speeds up my development timeline, but this doesn’t mean I’m fearing for my job being eliminated to some sophisticated automated output. The speed has come from AI helping me understanding system design concepts as opposed to outputting usable code. I’d like to add that our codebase, while not beyond comprehension, is mighty hefty but is configured in a pretty standard manner. (Drupal, Vue)So what is AI doing for the average joe developer in their 9-5? It’s 2026. I’m so sick and tired of doom and gloom articles that have been coming out for years now.EDIT: Interesting smattering of responses. I’ll look into model use cases and codex but I still don’t fear for my job anytime soon. 🤘🏼 via /r/webdev https://ift.tt/iQwIaMy

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The quiet phase after infidelity no one warns you about

February 9, 2026 No comments Article

Everyone talks about discovery.No one talks about the Sundays after.My life is stable now. Functional. From the outside, I look fine. But Sunday afternoons (and Friday evenings too, if I’m honest) have this very specific emotional drop that catches me off guard every week.The day can be perfectly nice – yoga, family lunch, normal life. Then everyone leaves, the house goes quiet, and I’m hit with this deep, hollow loneliness. Not dramatic. Just heavy. Like the structure of my old life quietly disappears for a moment and I’m standing there alone in it.Even when the relationship was struggling, there was still a routine we did on Sundays. A rhythm. Even if I sometimes felt lonely inside the relationship, there was still a shared structure and a sense of being part of something. Now Sundays feel like a weekly reminder that I’m building a life alone.I’ve also become painfully aware of how much my nervous system still reacts to whether someone I like messages me or not. I don’t want to feel at the mercy of male attention anymore. I want my steadiness to come from me. But getting there is slower and more uncomfortable than I expected.I’m not falling apart.I’m rebuilding.But this quiet phase, where everything looks fine and still feels lonely sometimes, is something I wasn’t prepared for.Does anyone else know this phase? via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/qpb0Y4V

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Clients think websockets are magic until the bill comes

February 5, 2026 No comments Article

Built a realtime dashboard for a client that updates every second with sensor data. They loved the demo, signed off immediately. “Make it just like this!”So we did. Went live with 500 concurrent users, websockets everywhere, everything updating in realtime. Looked beautiful. Then I check aws billing end of month and our data transfer is $3200. I’m like what the fuck? Client sees the invoice and absolutely loses it.Had to go back and basically dumb it down. Most stuff now polls every 10 seconds, only kept websockets for critical alerts that actually need instant updates. Bill drops to like $400 and suddenly client is happy again.I don’t even pitch real time features in demos anymore without showing them what it’s gonna cost. Yeayyh that was an expensive lesson. via /r/webdev https://ift.tt/Bi2qn7J

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CBC Gem

February 4, 2026 No comments Article

Another plug for this one. I just finished a documentary called Made in Ethiopia, took 10 mins to breathe through my emotions, and then started Luminaries. Just trying to say that if you’re still paying for Robber Rogers cable or one of the USA streaming services, you might want to give CBC Gem a try. Something for everyone, and honestly, we kind of already paid for it anyway.Use your savings to pay off your mortgage or free up your budget to buy local. via /r/BuyCanadian https://ift.tt/vDrRuxi

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People who say “you will be bored” when you retire young are insane

February 4, 2026 No comments Article

Hi, I am more or less at my FIRE goal at 33 years old. For context, I was into FIRE before I even knew FIRE was a thing… I just called it “dropping out of the matrix”.One thing that has always surprised me is that, I learned not to tell people–colleagues, parents, friends, anyone–of my FIRE goals. It almost never resonates.I would say 9 times out of 10, the response is some version of “wouldn’t you be bored without working?!” or “you should find work you’re passionate about!”I never understood this.All I can say is, over the years, I’ve noticed my happiness, stress level, and overall sense of fulfillment correlates far more strongly with workload than with, say, income or job role.And the relationship isn’t subtle. The less I work, the better I feel–mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I’m also a better person around others.As I’ve moved closer to FIRE, I’ve just become happier and happier. At this point, I work 10 hours a week, earn good money, and I just feel GOOD. When work ticks up, this falls though.Secondly, I also find it somewhat disturbing how deeply many people tie meaning and identity to work. In the US, you ask someone “what do you do?” first; not, “what do you love?”Why do so many people feel they need an economic and productivity motive in order to have meaning and be happy? Don’t you have things that you are passionate about outside of work? Wouldn’t you rather do that than look at Excel spreadsheets 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, non-stop? Personally, I do think it’s a form of cognitive dissonance-coping for those unable to “just drop out”.Now that I’m essentially semi-retired at 33, it’s my clock and calendar. My days are scheduled around my priorities, not someone else’s. I enjoy the freedom of waking up and knowing the day is for me, and the next day after that, and the day after that.The best way I can describe it is that I feel like a child who doesn’t have the stress of school or anything, but also with the freedom and maturity of being an adult. Like, an endless summer break from school.And, yes, that’s been every bit as good as it sounds!Anyhow, I’m curious of other people’s take on this topic? via /r/Fire https://ift.tt/rNaG38k

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Mississauga Night Life (updated)

February 4, 2026 No comments Article

Hi All SaugansWe all know that nightlife is limited in sauga , still there are pockets you can find lots of fun and meet people around ur age and kinds…Sugar Daddy is the only dance nightclub (Serves only alcohol) in the city you can party until 2am in the morning on Friday and Saturday night as of now. its costumers mostly Caribbean Black and South Asians. I have seen some middle eastern and white people in the club as well. This club has been running for over 25 years and one of the longest running clubs in GTA.there are some restaurant bars turns into club all located in Port Credit after 10pm with a DJ and dance floor such as Canvas and Door 55 . Their customers are mixed mostly 20+ crowd .There are still many live music venues in Port Credit area. if u are into live band and dance , roc n doc , spice lounge, shore grill etc , bands and musicians are mostly same they just rotate the venues in this area …There are many pool halls (The Rack, crooked cue, Monte Carlo, Captain Snooker, Big Slick, Central etc in the city open until 2AM on the weekends .There are many shisha/Hookah bar clubs in Sauga some turns into club with DJ and Dance floor after 10pm on the weekends such as Fume , Sahara etc …Their customers mostly Middle Eastern and South Asians but their doors are open to anyone.There are some Salsa dance clubs in Sauga Fregata Restaurant on Dundas and Salsa club in Etobicoke/Sauga border are good ones i heard.There some Karaoke bars open late on the weekends for those who likes to sing such as High Zone, Young St, Hourglass KTV …There are 2 swinger clubs (X club & M4) and many strip clubs ( Diamonds, New Locomotion, Cafe Atlantis, Midway invader, Pure Gentlemen, Million Dollar in Mississauga for those into dirty fun. Mississauga is the center of dirty fun in Ontario due to having Pearson Airport in the city. Most of these clubs are around the airport west industrial area .The clubs that shut down their doors or not operating club anymore RECENTLY are Port House ,Next Stop Club (Asian club), HERS, Rogue, Unleash Jungle, Wave Bar…Couple of clubs and bars also very close to Mississauga depending on where you live such as Dirty Martini is a restaurant/ night club in Oakville/Mississauga border , has been operating for years specially for those 25+ its a good option , Rockpile is a rock/metal live music club in Etobicoke/Mississauga border for those who likes their music harder. Cactus bar is on Sherway Garden Toronto/Mississauga border for elegant night bar experience open until 1am on Friday and Saturday night .Below are the establishments i know open late hours in the SQ1 area , limited but good variety for those SQ1 condo folksFor those looking for night club fun bar experience , The Rec Room is the most famous place in SQ1 area for those who wants to have fun until late hours on the weekend . its open until 2AM on Friday and Sat night , there are lots of arcade games, bowling, axe throwing, ping pong etc to play with easy dining options and they do have some DJ music, speed dating, comedy nights ticketed events here and there depending on the night. Check their website for event info and tickets ….if you are looking for date night or upscale lounge rooftop place Bar6ix (Sport Bar), Haze Lounge(Middle Eastern) and Befikre (Indian) open until 2am everyday ,there are many restaurants-bars open until 1am in the area Jacks, Moxies, Earls etc are couple of them.High Zone Karaoke club and Coopers Irish pub also close to area and open until 3am and 2am everyday …If you know any good nightlife entertainment establishments in Mississauga please feel free to add to the list …. via /r/mississauga https://ift.tt/LzSGerl

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Rant: My coworker sent me a screenshot of a conversation he had where our boss compared me pumping at work to smoke breaks and people spending 15 minutes in the bathroom to be on their phone

December 29, 2025 No comments Article

I use a wearable pump and spend 5 minutes tops putting it on in the bathroom because there is no other private area for me to do it. I work while I pump. I’m hurt that I’m being roped into the same category as people who “steal company time”. via /r/breastfeeding https://ift.tt/5DfgoA3

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I found my daughter’s (12f) horrific hidden social media account. Help!

December 29, 2025 No comments Article

I have an app that’s supposed to prevent her from downloading social media and notify me if she does. IDK what changed, but it alerted me that she had posted on this app. When I opened the notification I found a VERY PUBLIC year old account with hundreds of followers and thousands of views. As I went through her phone tonight the app alerted me to everything I was doing. I don’t know why it’s suddenly telling me everything.Most of the content was extremely explicit and sexually suggestive. My daughter has always been extremely prudish. She cried when I signed the permission slip for sex Ed. This was so unexpected. The content was really traumatizing for me. What was worse? The comments. She openly admitted her age, but there were so many comments from people admitting they were over 20 having sexual conversations with her. Literally hundreds of comments. They would try to get her to chat outside of the app and I found two conversations outside of the app. She gave these people information about where we live and where she goes to school. The worst part is that she shared pictures of friends and family in her posts and the private conversations. She’s in therapy for thoughts of self harm. I’ve called the police and we’re filing a report. I plan to notify the school and the other parents. But, I’m so scared of what the fallout of all of this will do to my daughter’s mental health. I’m going to call for an emergency appointment with her therapist tomorrow. Am I making the right choice too tell the other parents? I’m worried she’ll be socially isolated. She had such a hard time making friends and that contributed to her mental health struggles. Plus word will spread around the school.What are my next steps? I’m so overwhelmed I can’t formulate how to work through this. I’m also struggling to figure out the proper punishment for this. Obviously she’s lost the phone and other devices, but what else should I do about this? Also is there a better app that you can recommend? I’m not happy with the current app for obvious reasons. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/b9grQPF

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REQUEST: More information about your partnership with Keepr?

December 16, 2025 No comments Article

I’m co-parenting with a high-conflict alcoholic who is doing everything he can to fight against any kind of monitoring. I’m interested in Keepr only as an alternative suggestion if he refuses to submit to random/monitored UAs. Could you post more about Keepr and/or co-parenting with an alcoholic? via /r/OurFamilyWizard_Real https://ift.tt/jQxI7s2

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Feeling like you never knew them, relationship feels like a “dream” or like it never happened

December 6, 2025 No comments Article

I can’t tell if I’m healing or dissociating or both but I no longer feel heartbroken – just this pervasive sense of feeling completely alienated and weirded out by the whole situation. When I say I feel like I never knew who they were, I don’t even mean it in a melodramatic way – I truly do not feel like I ever knew this person at all. Whoever they were with me was a facade and I realize that now, and I especially do not recognize the way they’ve acted since we broke up. They are a completely different person towards me now, and that’s what made me realize that whoever I thought I loved wasn’t real to begin with. It makes the relationship itself feel like a mirage, that even if it did happen it didn’t mean anything or matter that much. I’ve imagined them standing in front of me and feeling in my bones that I would be able to look at them and wholeheartedly tell them that I don’t even know who they are. It’s so hard to articulate the exact feeling but it feels like I got erased and I was wondering if anyone else had felt this. via /r/NarcissisticAbuse https://ift.tt/sZe9g3w

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