Blindsided, lied to, gaslit, discarded. I’m angry at the injustice.

For months I thought my marriage of 15+ years was amazing. Then one day (6 months ago), bam, my wife said she was unhappy. I immediately took responsibility for everything and tried to fix things. We went to counseling and spent a few weeks “working on it.”Then I found out she was having an affair.After that, it was lying, trickle truth, gaslighting, and increasing coldness. The end was brutal. She said some deeply cruel things to me and basically rewrote our whole marriage like I was the problem all along. I literally found emails/text messages of her and the AP mocking me as not a man and how happy they were screwing around while I was oblivious.What destroys me is the unfairness. She had months to emotionally process and plan her exit. I got blindsided and shattered. Now I’m the one in therapy doing the heavy lifting to recover, while she seems to have moved on with no real consequences.I also learned the affair was with a former patient of hers from the hospital in which she works.At this point, I’m doing better, I’m slowly healing and growing. We are officially divorced. Thankfully no kids.But I’m still angry…part of me wants to tell all of her friends what she did. Tell them, how can you associate with someone like her when you have sons of your own. I also am tempted to contact her workplace and provide the emails and tell them about the affair with her cancer patient…that has to be potential grounds for dismissal or at least it would hurt her reputation. I know…probably best to just move on and forget her…it’s just…she caused me so much hurt and pain and a big part of me wants to hurt her back.What do you guys think? via /r/survivinginfidelity https://ift.tt/Sd6tcsg